I had every intention of going for a run after work but then we had a recruiting team Q4 kick-off and had a corporate sponsored happy hour on the roof so YA KNOW.
Applying blush for your ladyfriends over beers because girlhood. (at Boylan Bridge Brewpub)
One of my favorite thing about my friends is all of the things they teach me. The only thing I understand about makeup is how to do ridiculous stage makeup for dance competitions. Every day I wear lotion, some powder, mascara, and maybe liquid eyeliner if I am not bored by then… it takes me less than 5 minutes. Standing in front of the makeup aisles at Walgreens stresses me out… I can’t imagine walking into somewhere like Ulta and having any idea what I’m doing. I need people to help me pick out colors and help me apply and teach me how to makeup, teach me teach me how to makeup.
On Saturday I watched Kacie use this really pretty gold blush thing and when I tried to use it I messed up twice so she wiped my face like a good mama and helped me apply it. Then she let me put on the same lipstain she was wearing and all my ladies told me I looked pretty and Beekie reminded me to take a picture of the brand and the name so I could buy it the next time I was out.
I didn’t think at the time about how important this moment was because we were busy giggling about makeup and girl stuff over beers, but looking back at this picture just now while catching up on my girl’s blogs made me so happy emotional. It’s a surface level thing but it’s indicative on so many levels of how often my best friends take care of me and how deeply we support each other and never make each other feel stupid and laugh at the things that make us unique and how we all bring special qualities to the circle. Women supporting women is the most important thing and I will never forget how lucky I am to have an incendiary girl gang.
Recently Read: Mrs. Kennedy and Me by Clint Hill with Lisa McCubbin
This memoir tells the story of Clint Hill, the secret service agent assigned to Jackie Kennedy. Apparently Hill had never spoken of his experience up until this book, and I imagine for die-hard Kennedy enthusiasts it was completely worth the wait.
It is truly no wonder that Jackie Kennedy preferred Clint Hill over all other agents. He is gentle and kind and his love and loyalty to her touches all of their interactions. Though the family history is peppered with scandal and tragedy, this memoir is in no way exploitative and does them no injustice.
I was in Durham for work on Friday so I stayed in town until Sunday to spend time with my favorite ladies. It was Mere’s birthday on Friday!
A day of beyonce, brunch, brews, and babes. Love them!
Hello, it seems you were in a sorority when you were at school. I've been on and off about dropping mine for a while, simply because I'm not sure what kind of impact it's going to have on my life, and how people will view me once I graduate etc. If you could dole out some advice about it that would be awesome! — Anonymous
I absolutely was actively involved with a sorority when I was in school. I really enjoyed my experience - I really felt more prepared to tackle opportunities during undergrad and interviews after graduation because of the skills acquired through my collegiate experience, not to mention the constant support system and fun opportunities associated with sorority life made my undergraduate time amazing.
That said, greek life was not huge at the school I attended and I found that people who pledged and went through the process were those looking for all of the positive qualities a greek experience can offer. We were close and tight knit (chapters and the community as a whole), we were leaders across campus, and we thrived academically.
Being greek has not held me back once post-grad. In fact, the woman who interviewed me for the job I currently have is my sorority sister! It’s something you can put on your resume or something you can omit. There’s no reason why it should be a negative factor when it comes to post-grad life.
There are a lot of reasons why women choose to drop the chapters they were initiated into. Financial issues, social issues, time commitment, etc. If you really feel like you are gaining nothing from membership then it’s a decision you’ll have to think carefully about. For some people it’s easy - for some it’s not so black and white. You can’t know the impact something is going to have on your life until later on, but I can truly say that there were so many things I didn’t know how to do before greek life - dress professionally (I had no business clothes!), keep a planner, manage my time properly… I achieved at a higher level academically when I joined a sorority. All of these things helped me during school and I know I wouldn’t be here today had I not been greek because a sorority sister of mine actually submitted my resume to the company I now work for! So full circle.
Happy to talk to you more about my experience should you need more advice!
Have you ever had a bad drunken night that you regret? I recently had that and was mean to my family and even though I've apologized I'm incredibly embarrassed and ashamed. But I can't even remember all that I said I just vaguely remember bits and know it was bad. What should I do to further fix it? — Anonymous
Oh sweet anon, of course I have. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
A lot of people drink too much and a lot of people say things they don’t mean. In the true spirit of honesty, I can be a supremely mean drunk, especially when it comes to those I care most about. It’s so hard when you only have bits and pieces of a memory. You dwell so much on the moment - it feels like the shame can truly eat you alive.
Are you brave enough to ask a family member exactly what happened? Sometimes I am, but mostly I’m too ashamed to so I just end up giving general apologies. Your family knows that you love them. And if you’re anything like me then they will forgive you so much sooner than you will forgive yourself. It’s a rough road.
You are a wonderful human being, and you are so much more than the consequences of your mistakes. Alcohol can be rough. It brings out the absolute best and the absolute worst. I promise that you will move on and be able to forgive yourself.
In the meantime, I’m absolutely here.
my favorite thing about traveling for work has to be returning home to no power.
living by candlelight - the Jamie Wright story.
Hey Jamie, I'm John. I stumbled on your blog and I have to say I really like it. I'm moving to DC in at the start of the year and I was wondering if there are any good spots to run. You seem pretty into staying in shape, have you ever tried kickboxing? — Anonymous
Hey John! Thanks for the compliment - I’m glad you’re enjoying the read :)
Excited for you to move to DC! I have been truly loving it so far. As far as good spots to run, the answer is anywhere right outside your door. Running in DC is AWESOME. There are people everywhere and so many things to look at. I personally really like running by the National Mall through all the memorials/monuments. There are a ton of parks around too. You’ll enjoy it wherever you go!
I’m definitely into staying active. I’ve never tried kickboxing, though! Should I?
What was dating a musician like? — Anonymous
Haha, hi anon.
Unfortunately I absolutely have a type and that type is brunette musician, and as they have all been separate humans beings every experience has been incredibly different! I love watching people do things they’re passionate about - watching someone love something helps you learn to love it too. That’s the most amazing thing about dating and loving people, you know? It can be more subtle for people with different interests but is a blatantly obvious thing when it comes to musicians.
AND FOR THE RECORD, I don’t seek out brunette musicians. They find me.